Men and women are both victims of domestic abuse at an alarming rate. Today I’d like to discuss the man’s role in preventing domestic violence against women.
Most men are kind, loving, and non-violent. A small percentage of men are violent and/or verbally abusive to women.
Domestic violence organizations are run by mostly women. Women take an active role in preventing domestic violence and seem to be more aware of the issue. Does this mean that all men are not involved or don’t realize the severity of the problem?
During my research, I’ve found some wonderful organizations that raise awareness to domestic violence. One amazing organization is A CALL TO MEN. From their website: “A CALL TO MEN educates boys and men to shift social and cultural norms that define manhood. A CALL TO MEN believes that preventing domestic and sexual violence is primarily the responsibility of men. Although historically it has been almost entirely women who have been at the forefront addressing this issue, we think it is essential that men play a primary role in the solution. To do that, well-meaning men…men who, for the most part don’t see themselves as part of the problem…need to get involved.” 1
This is just one of many organizations that exist to help with gender equity issues. Click here to find a list of similar groups. (This list doesn’t include every male-led organization dedicated to this topic.)
What can men do besides join an organization?
They can model good behavior in their family, in society, among friends, in their religious organization, and at work.
Men can be vigilant and look for signs that a woman is being abused. They can help and comfort that woman, just as a woman may come to her aid.
Men can educate other men. Have discussions about domestic violence and brainstorm about what can be done.
Men can impact boys and their views on the treatment of girls and women by sending positive messages. Families, teachers, mentors, and coaches all play a role in how boys view girls.
Men can seek counseling if they grew up in an abusive home to make sure they don’t repeat the pattern.
Men want to help. They can help. They can make a big difference in stopping domestic violence among women.
Remember, if we can help just one victim, we’ve done our job.